Maintaining A Healthy Marriage


Marriage, like a garden, requires constant care and attention to flourish. While the initial spark of love might ignite quickly, maintaining a healthy marriage takes dedication and effort. The Bible, a timeless source of wisdom, offers invaluable guidance for couples seeking to navigate the joys and challenges of married life.

Principles Of Maintaining A Healthy Marriage

1. Sow Seeds of Love and Respect:

The foundation of any healthy relationship is love and respect. 1 Corinthians 13:4 beautifully describes love as “patient, kind… it does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful.” Treat your spouse with the same kindness and respect you desire for yourself. Remember, Ephesians 5:21 reminds us to “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.” This mutual submission isn’t about dominance, but about honoring each other’s needs and perspectives.

2. Water with Communication and Understanding:

Open and honest communication is the lifeblood of a healthy marriage. Proverbs 15:22 states, “Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed.” Regularly set aside time for meaningful conversations, actively listen to each other without judgment, and strive to understand your spouse’s point of view.

3. Weed Out Negativity and Forgive:

No marriage is perfect, and disagreements are inevitable. However, allowing negativity to fester can poison the relationship. Ephesians 4:26 urges us to “not let the sun go down while you are still angry.” Practice forgiveness readily, remembering Colossians 3:13: “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.”

4. Nurture Intimacy and Shared Values:

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Physical and emotional intimacy are essential for a strong marriage. Make time for regular date nights, express affection freely, and engage in activities you both enjoy. Song of Songs 2:16 proclaims, “My beloved is mine, and I am his.” Prioritize shared values and spiritual growth together. Amos 3:3 asks, “Can two walk together unless they are agreed?” Aligning your core values and seeking guidance from scripture can provide a strong foundation for your journey.

5. Tend to Individual Needs and Shared Dreams:

Remember, you are two unique individuals coming together. Philippians 2:4 encourages us to “Look out not only for your own interests, but also for the interests of others.” Celebrate each other’s individuality while nurturing shared dreams and goals. Open communication and compromise are key to navigating individual needs within the context of your shared vision as a couple.

3 Things To Consider When Choosing A Partner

MARRIAGE is like a shoe. When you wear oversize be ready to drag it along through out life, and when you wear under-size be ready to feel the pains through out life.” One thing about marriage is that you don’t drop your shoe or remove it at any point, no matter how painful or how stressful it is.

1. Physical Appearance

Do not look for the beautiful ones, the nice ones or the cheap ones. Look for the one that is your size. Not every handsome, wealthy or intelligent guy is for you, not every beautiful woman is for you. Look for the one that is meant for you, the one that aligns with your values and beliefs, the one who you meet at your life’s journey.

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It is important to know where you’re going in life before you think of getting a wife or a husband.

2. Position:

All sizes of shoes are not placed in the same place.

There is a place for court shoes, laced up shoes, sport footwear, snickers etc. We have Children sizes, young people’s sizes and the adult sizes. Know where to get your own shoe. Your size cannot be everywhere my brother/sister, your type cannot be everywhere my sister. You cannot be a Christian, and be looking for a wife material at a club. Your wife or husband can’t just be everywhere.

Stick to your values and therein you shall find someone like you, but when your values are not defined anyone can just match you. Discover yourself and define your values.

3. Perceptions

In this kind of shoe purchasing enterprise, you are not permitted to try the shoe before you buy. This is why it is important to seek guidance and counseling, from people who have bought shoes before or are into the business of directing people to the right shoes (pastors, marriage counsellors and Relationship coaches).

And most importantly to avoid much time wasting , simply consult the shoe manufacturer to bring you your size (Almighty God).

NOTE :”You do not prepare for wedding, you prepare for marriage.”

Ladies of today get so motivated when they attend weddings and they will quickly want to say yes to that guy and be asking themselves “God When?”. Wait!!! It is not just the wedding ooooh. The wedding is just one day. After the wedding WHAT NEXT?

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Finally, it is not something you rush to the market and just pick a shoe because you like or can purchase it.

Questions To Ask Before Getting Married

Additional Bible Verses for Reflection

  • Proverbs 18:22: “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.”
  • Ecclesiastes 4:9-10: “Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has no one to help him up.”
  • Malachi 2:16: “For the Lord hates divorce, says the Lord, the God of Israel, for it covers one’s garment with violence, says the Lord of hosts. So take care of yourselves, and do not be treacherous to the wife of your youth.”

Remember, marriage is a sacred journey, and God is always present to guide you. Seek His wisdom through prayer, draw strength from scripture, and never hesitate to reach out for guidance from trusted mentors or faith-based resources. With faith, commitment, and the principles gleaned from the Bible, you can cultivate a garden of love that blooms beautifully, enriching your lives and inspiring others.

May your marriage journey be filled with love, joy, and blessings!

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